Matters of Love and Patience Posted by Ashleigh Slater on May 13, 2008

I met my husband when I was 23. We married not long after I turned 24. Because of this, the concept of having to wait and wait and wait for Mr. Right to come along is foreign to my personal experience. In fact, often times when I'm chatting with a friend who is still waiting, I struggle with what to say. I ask myself, Will these words be encouraging? Or did I just utter the wrong thing?

All of this is to say, we have a very encouraging article this week on faith and patience while waiting for a husband. And thankfully, it's not from me-of-little-experience. Instead, it comes from Arlene Pellicane, who knows personally what it means to wait for years to earn her MRS. It's my prayer that those of you who are still fervently waiting for, praying for, and trusting God in the area of a husband, will find your faith built as you read Arlene's story, "Mr. Wonderful."

In addition to "Mr. Wonderful," we also have a review of the film Bella, recently released to DVD. We originally ran this review back in November when the film was at the box office, but wanted to once again highlight the movie. As I note in my review, it's a film that's indeed beautiful and shows what can happen when we take the time to patiently loves others. I strongly encourage those of you who haven't seen Bella, to pick it up. And for those of you who've seen the film and enjoyed it, buy a copy. It's a film I definitely plan on adding it to our personal collection.

What about you? What thoughts do you have to share on this week's articles? Any stories or encouragement for those waiting for husbands? Any comments on Bella?

Comments

[Sarah]

As a single woman trusting God to bring me together with my "Mr. Wonderful," I found Arlene's article very encouraging and faith inspiring. I enjoyed her writing style as well and the moments she shared of how God spoke to her.

[Danielle]

I really enjoyed Arlene's article! The single years are boundless opportunities to grow, serve, travel, and explore in ways that are different from when you become a wife and/or mom. I'd just say take advantage of them! The one thing I wish I'd done was to teach ESL in China when I was single. Instead I opted to not take that "risk" and work full-time paying down student loans. A wise choice, but I think I should have taken a few more risks during that time.

I was married at 26, which in secular circles is "young" and in Christian circles often "older":) I certainly wouldn't want to have been married any younger. God knew what was perfect for me! I've loved each season I've experienced so far. I think learning contentment in each season helps prepare you for the next one.

Thanks for the review of Bella, Ashleigh! I'm looking forward to seeing it, as I haven't yet.

[Margaret]

This exactly what I needed to hear today, as I struggle daily with my deep desire to be a wife and have a family. Thank you for reminding me that I too may find that special peace and joy that comes with trusting my future to God.

Even though I know that God has someone very special planned to share my life, it's sometimes hard to keep from feeling lonely, or forgotten, in the now.

It is very frustrating to be in your mid-20s, independent in a big city, active in the church, do all the "right" things, know a lot of great single men, and still be dateless. I do envy my friends who were fortunate to find their Mr. Wonderful early and get married right out of high school or college. There is a definite security and stability in their lives that I wish I had.

When friends say "just try online dating" or "why don't you just ask so-and-so out?" it's difficult not to be tempted. (Don't even get me started on the dreaded "Soooo... are you dating anyone?") But I know I'll have an even greater reward by waiting for God to lead my life the way He has planned.

[Sarah]

How very refreshing. So many Christian Single blogs make you feel like you're a big fat loser if you're not married!

[Grace]

I was also 'dateless' through most of my teen age years and college. Lots of friends, good times, but no special someone. And DJ was well worth the wait!
:)

[Natasha]

Personally, I don't like the concept of "waiting around for Mr. Right." I have one life to live and sitting around twirling my pretty dress just waiting for someone to pick me is a waste of time!

[Lindsey]

I've had a particular rough time with still being single lately. Your words proved both refreshing and encouraging. Thanks for waiting and thanks for sharing your story!